HORNY we are not good enough, means that we are not good enough compared to a fictitious image of perfection in our mind. Nothing more. HomeSelf Mastery ProgramFree AudioVideoHappiness BlogEventsCoachingAbout Gary Articles How the Mind Affects Happiness Self Help Doesn't Work Voice in my Head Self Awareness Create Happiness Overcoming Jealousy Overcoming Insecurity Pursuit of Happiness Core Beliefs Change False Beliefs Identify Core Beliefs Core Beliefs Inventory Body Image Beliefs Food and Beliefs of Feeling Deprived Relationships Happy Relationships Relationship Drama Emotional Safety Overcoming jealousy Symbols of Love Better Relationship Communication Skills Anger Management Anger Management Understanding Anger What causes Anger Belief Inventory of Anger Self Mastery Program Self Mastery Audio Coaching mp3 The Process to Change Emotions Four Agreements Self Awareness Exercises Conference Calls Testimonials Help Page About Gary Individual Coaching and Mentoring Gary's Background Recommended Reading and Listening Nourish your Soul with Books and Movies Contact Gary More Articles Controlling Your Happiness Two Paths to Happiness Controlling Relationships Being Optimistic Enlightenment Compassion Key to Happiness Frustrations at Work Feeling Unworthy Miguel Ruiz Spiritual Seekers and Finders Irrational Fears Develop Personal Power Happiness Test Workshops and Events Other Resources Web Hosting Service I recommend Overcoming Insecurity and Low Self Esteem Self Mastery Program: Change Your Core Beliefs Free Trial The Relationship Course: Practical Steps to End the Drama Real Self Confidence and Esteem is based in emotion, not a self image To build self confidence and overcome low self esteem is to change how we feel emotionally about ourselves. To change our emotion requires changing two different core beliefs about self image. The first core belief is obvious. It is the belief that we are not good enough. It may have a more specific association to how we look, how smart we are, money, or lack of confidence sexually. The second core belief to change is the image of success that we feel we should be. Changing this belief is contrary to logic, but is a must if we are to overcome insecurity and raise our self esteem. False Self Image of Perfection Cause of Low Self Esteem and Lack of Confidence When your mind has an image of success that you "should be" it associates happy emotions with that picture. I call that the image of perfection in our mind. The mind does a comparison between the image of perfection and how you see your self image currently. The comparison results in judgment and self rejection for not meeting the image of perfection. The self rejection results in feeling unworthy and of low self esteem

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